Senseless ramblings about love

Oh yea, here we go…A rambling, somewhat indecipherable post about love, chemicals, insanity and the like.

I guess we can start by asking ourselves: What IS love? (apparently the most searched phrase on google in 2012…some senseless trivia knowledge for you) Is it chemistry? Is it Hollywood? Is it a natural drive to reproduce and rear our young? Is it an Edwardian concept, poeticized and fantasized until it became our ‘reality’?  Infatuation in sheep’s clothing? A survival instinct? Or getting to know and appreciate those who surround you for most of your life?

Without fail, every single time I subscribe myself to a theory regarding love…just around the bend an exception to my new rule presents itself.

ROMANTIC LOVE v. ARRANGED LOVE

Take for instance romantic love. (Thank you Hollywood for setting mainstream standards that no human could possibly live up to…) I got on this bender in my early 20’s. Girl meets boy, boy falls head over heels in love with perfect girl, does everything in and beyond his power to get noticed, spoil her, respect her, be perfect to her family, makes (insert monthly paycheck here) amount of money, is willing to pay all the bills, pick his socks off the floor and indulge his girl in the occasional shopping spree. All the while, refusing to get upset when girl comes in at 4 am, drunk as a skunk with girlfriends in tow. Yea…right. Then, start thinking to yourself; if this is really love, then what about arranged marriages? With a higher than 50% rate of divorce in Western countries, how is it couples, for the most part, who are in arranged marriages (Just FYI- the divorce rate for arranged marriages is stated to be a whopping 4%) have, for the most part, managed to figure out a way to ‘love’, respect and co-exist together for the remnant of a lifetime. Of course, the statistics related to arranged marriage divorces are debatable since its culturally embedded that you wed, and stay that way. Divorce, although possible in many cases, is frowned upon and there are always other societal factors at work. But I digress. The question here is; When you see a couple who met just before approaching the altar, and they are happy together 50 years later…how does this happen? There was no romancing. Certainly no physical contact to blur up one’s brain with chemicals. Is it that both bride and groom (though nervous as knots) have been waiting for this pivotal moment all of their young lives and are determined to make it work no matter what? Is it a ‘love the one your with’ situation? Are these 2 people so utterly open-minded and accepting that fighting tooth and nail over trivial aspects of life together …just doesn’t happen? Or that there just exists enough self control to only go to bed grumbling under your breath about the things that annoy, but having enough respect for the life partner to not air grievances?

BIOLOGY

Drugs? Love drugs?? YES, PLEASE! Who says nature doesn’t have a sense of humor? Seriously! Our brains get so doped up from a rush of neuro-chemicals that we find ourselves bouncing around like a bunch of drunk college students doing really doofy shit.

There’s 2 stages to this. The ‘honeymoon’ stage (usually lasts about 3-6 months). Enjoy it, because it’s the only time in your relationship where you can do NO wrong…even if you accidentally take out his mailbox on your way out the drive. These are the GOOD chemicals. The morphine drip of love, if you will. This nifty little cocktail consists of phenylethylamine, norepinephrine (or noradrenaline),serotonin and dopamine. According to scientists, there is also another Love dose later in long term relationships which consist of oxytocin and vasopressin.

This is a continuing cycle. Dopamine starts this whole mess. The love based adrenaline rush cannot happen until there is a sufficient amount of dopamine. This chemical triggers the pleasure receptors in the brain. Resulting in a WHEEEEEE, Happy Happy Joy Joy- I want more of that, please. Seratonin levels drop in reaction to increased dopamine, and this is said to be responsible for the anxiety, nervousness and overall dating OCD that occurs. Norepinephrine comes into play. This chemical kicks off a chain reaction in the brain, to the nervous system which stimulates the receiver into feelings of joy and a suppressed appetite. (Just a side note: When this hits us ladies, the result is a slightly skinnier, happy, confident person! We think we’re completed by our lover which makes us feel so ….AWESOME! Truth is, we are. But could there be other ways to stimulate this reaction in our bodies so that we could always be so AWESOME?) Last but not least is phenylethylamine. This is good stuff. It creates our spinny – can do – happier than a puppy with a biscuit – must have more, moments. It also kicks off another round of dopamine and the whole process starts all over again. Hence, being ‘addicted to love’. Literally. This is usually the stage when we’re texting instead of working, friends get put out to pasture, house plants die, and we suddenly find ourselves with an over-run of lingerie and pancake breakfasts. Oh yea, and everything our partner does is cute. Even the horribly irritating disgusting habits, are adorable…or worse, fixable. (NEWS FLASH: Fixable doesn’t happen)

Oxytocin and vasopressin are said to create feelings of security and well-being which explains why this usually kicks in during a long term relationship. New question: Does this chemical reaction cause us to feel secure enough in our relationships to continue happily along, or does our happiness in the relationship cause this chemical reaction which encourages us that we’ve made the right move and carry on? (Which came first, the chicken or the egg?)

SURVIVAL

Okei, so survival and brains go hand and hand…sort of…not really. In order to serve my purposes here, I’m loosely defining the survival genre as our body’s involuntary drive to ensure its survival. Mate presence; here we go! Men recognize women’s hips and youthful appearance as a clue to how capable she is to procreate. Women recognize either facial/bone structure and agility (physically) – Someone must protect the cave and bring us dinner! OR The clothes, car, job and house – Societal ability to afford the same protection and welfare, but only from a modern day standpoint. This falls in line with Darwins theory on sexual selection; meaning that people will evolve traits that attract members of the opposite sex. Don’t knock it – it’s real. I’ve also heard of the mirroring phenomenon, where individuals subconsciously choose mates which resemble themselves in order to better insure reproduction or status. If you don’t believe in the collective conscious, here’s a little factoid for you: Did you know that stocks will always gain profit in the cosmetics and women’s clothing industries right before a recession hits? It’s true! Lipstick and mini-skirts. Years of micro economic research has shown that lipstick and mini-skirts drastically increase in purchases made proceeding a recession. The explanation for this? Women’s collective conscious somehow mysteriously know that hard times are ahead and invest in the 2 items which make us appear more attractive to potential mates. Shocker, huh?!

OUR BRAINS

Enter the three brain system theory. This is a fun one… I’ve been reading up on student research papers on this and it might explain a few things.  This theory is constructed based on an evolutionary form of animalistic behaviour. According to Dr. Helen Fisher (cited) there are 3 ‘brains’ or sections of the brain regarding love working together, or separately. These sections are “sexual arousal, romantic attraction and emotional bonding”. It is said that because all 3 of these are able to work independently of each other, it would explain why you can be in an intimate relationship with one person, have a huge crush on another and be emotionally bonded to yet another. If that’s how you choose to roll, then there you go. Apparently, the oxytocin and vasopressin which trigger feelings of security during long term relationships is the situation in which all 3 of the ‘brains’ work together as they are all needed.

SOCIETY and CULTURAL NORMS

Many societies, especially the west, subscribe to the theory of marrying for love. If you love them, give them something that you’ve given to none other  (or few others) – marriage. But to bring us back to the beginning…what is love anyway? What sets one person apart from the other? I do also think that the view of ‘he’s single, whats wrong with him’ comes into play unwittingly.

In some cultures, singles are seen to be outcasts. Somehow unfit, inappropriate, or otherwise unable to reach the social construct of acceptability. In Japan, boys are groomed for marriage. No mother wants her son to be a ‘bare branch’.

In some cultures, marriage and family is the lifetime goal. Take Russia, for example, where  new births are greeted with a financial benefit from the state. Another factor which comes into play is demographics, where the ratio of males to females is 86 to 100. Talk about competition! This is exactly opposite of Alaska, where there are approximately 10 males per every 1 female. Talk about choices! Or in China, where the ratio is approximately 106 males to every 100 females.

To wrap up this extra long read (sorry about that, I got carried away). Regardless of culture, nationality, chemistry, survival, or a simple desire not to be alone…love exists. For all of us. My advice is to take a deep breath, try to keep your wits about you and in 7 months, if you are still swooning, laughing, playing…and aren’t ready to kill each other over the dishes, then stick with it. If after a few months, you begin to realize your needs aren’t being met, you’re being ignored for the tv, used, cheated on or the like – move on. We all want to be loved and everything in us and the world is working in our favour to achieve this lovely goal.

What does LOVE mean to you?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

Advertisements

Lemon juice and Glycerine hand gel

This is my weekly find feature, for the weekly find challenge by a dark world inside. This is also a product review for this product, which I highly recommend…especially for winter hands!

After a month of complaining that my usual hand creams weren’t working -during a particularly cold and cruel winter, this little beauty found it’s way into my Christmas stocking. I don’t know if it was the soap I was using, or the extreme temps outdoors…but my hands have dried out so badly that they were cracking and even bleeding in some places. Ouch! Ouch! OOOOOUUUUCH!

This product, which originates in Finland, is glycerine based – not water based and has made a drastic difference in the condition of my hands. Thank you! For next winter, I will make sure to have a stock of this on hand…literally! Besides, whats the point of having a fantastic manicure when your hands look like you’re 100 years old?

What are your fave hand products for the cold?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

Winter slim-down week 15

It’s official…I’m frustrated. I’m finding myself really stuck at 63 kgs (139 lbs). I’m not sure if it’s normal to reach a point where you just stay at that weight for awhile, or what.

I’ve been eating vegetarian sushi (with tofu and veggies), steamed vegs and rice, steamed vega and pasta, tofu egg salad on whole wheat tortilla wraps, green pea soup, miso soup, protein shakes and only once this week did I have the nutrilett diet soup. I have been doing daily planks, prisoner squats, leg lifts, kettle bells and hand weights with some random cardio mixed in for good measure. This week I’ll be adding in these reverse crunches for good measure.

So…what is going on? I’m going to give myself another week like this, and if I still haven’t managed to drop any weight or at least shape up a bit, then I’m just going to have to find something different that might be more effective.

Anyone have any insights as to why this is happening like this? Am I missing something?

Thanks for reading!

-Mliae

101 Reasons to Celebrate Today!

15

followed-blog-100-2xAs I sit here this morning with the biggest of all smiles plastered on my face, I’m so excited to have reached 101 genuinely AWESOME followers!

I’ve been blogging since October 2015 and wanted to grow my blog organically without involving friends and family so that I knew if my blog was being read, it was because someone was genuinely interested in what I have to say 🙂  Hence the reason why reaching this milestone is so important to me.

Blogging is a million times better when I can share my thoughts with like-minded and communicative individuals – and occasionally even manage to go off on a collaborative, creative journey with my fellow bloggers. In the past four months, I have met so many wonderful people here on WP, and made a few lovely new friends, who are just too friendly and comfortable to resist.

Thank you all so much for granting me time out of your lives to read what I have to say and to interact with me. That time is so valuable, and greatly appreciated!

Big Hugs all around!

-Mliae

 

Recycled Book Reading Challenge!

153

I’ve really been wishing to create a reading challenge that I hope many people will join. I’m not a book blogger, but I do enjoy reading and reporting. All books are important, each in their own way. I guess you can assume that since I’m all over the map in life, my tastes in books is a bit erratic as well. So, I don’t stick to one form of literature…I like everything!

Book clubs and running out to purchase the newest hot item on the shelf has a tendency to get expensive after awhile, so I would like to focus on used or ‘recycled’ books. Remember that library book you bought for 10 cents? Or the second hand store find for 25 cents? Those are the ones about which I’m speaking. We all have them…some, like me, have a closet full just waiting to be read.

Here’s what I’m thinking:

  • Beginning once the challenge is accepted, pick an old find, dust it off, take a good photo and start reading.
  • If you would to tag some fellow bloggers, which you think might enjoy the challenge…feel free to spread the joy!
  • On the 1st day of every month for the next 12 months, post a review of the book, commentary, joke, or opinion (complete with photo).
  • Please include in the post a ping back to the challenge or challenger
  • Link to your book post on this comment section, and announce our next months book

What do you think? 12 recycled books of your choosing, in 12 months?

Please share, link, repost, reblog or pass along…The more, the merrier!

Thanks for reading!

-Mliae

*Photo sourced via Pixabay

My Dirty Secret: Cleaning Motivation

7

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the day-to-day of work, travel, play, sleep and mundane tasks. It’s that occasional moment when I look around and see all the things I’ve yet to do that makes me roll my eyes and want to climb back under the blankets and hide.

When I can find a corner to sit alone for about an hour, I’ll search youtube for an episode of hoarders. I think the entire world recognizes this show by now (which in and of itself is kind of weird …the things that garner attention!) and it is absolutely horrifying.

Watching this show makes me want to vomit in my gym shoes. Seriously. I don’t understand HOW people can allow themselves and their homes to get in such horrendous shape! This really is people choosing things, trash – over those they love. However, I am absolutely addicted to watching it. It’s like a train wreck: You know you shouldn’t look, and instead should assist, but…it’s just that out of whack that you can’t help but stare in earth shattering fear and amazement.

Even better (or worse for my youtube hoarders addiction), every time an episode completes (sometimes halfway through), I start cleaning. I mean CLEANING my home. Toothbrush in hand kind of cleaning and ready to toss out just everything.

So this is my dirty confession. Hoarders is my biggest motivation for spring cleaning. If you’re anything like me, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Check it out if you have the stomach for it and watch your floors sparkle.

Hoarders

Whats your dirty secret?

-mliae

 

Guerlain Paris maxi shine lip sensation

This is my weekly find for the weekly find blogging event at a dark world inside and I’m also writing a product review for this product. This stuff is AWESOME!

I’m a loyal Shalimar fan, so when I purchased a bottle of one of may all-time favorite fragrances, I received this little beauty as a bonus. I have to admit, that had it never been added to my bag, I probably would not have purchased it on my own. But now, I will. Not only is it a super moisturizing lipgloss, but…IT SMELLS LIKE ROSES!!

SOLD! I’ve used it to the very end already and will be, without a doubt, purchasing another tube of this maxi shine when I am next at the Guerlain counter.

You can view some of my other lip gloss product reviews here.

What are some of your faves?

Thanks for reading!

-Mliae

The Versatile Blogger Award!

34

Thank you so much to Chape Personal Trainer for nominating me for the versatile blogger award! Peer recognition is a wonderful thing and it feels great to be recognized by a successful fellow blogger who never ceases to amaze me. Thanks again, David!

I really love these kinds of awards where I can pass it along to those bloggers that I’m impressed by. My nominees were all chosen due to their lovely writing, coverage of versatile topics or meanderings and the fact that I am a fan of theirs. 🙂

versatile-blogger-award-3

The rules are simple:

  1. Thank the person that nominated you and include a link to their blog.
  2. Nominate at least 15 bloggers of your choice. When considering a fellow blogger for the Versatile Blogger Award, keep in mind the quality of their writing, the uniqueness of their subject matter and the level of love displayed on the virtual page.
  3. Link your nominees and let them know about their nomination.
  4. Share seven facts about yourself.

7 Facts about me:

  1. I’m a friend for life kind of person
  2. I would rather do things, than have things
  3. Spring and Summer are my favorite seasons
  4. I quit colouring my hair on a bet that I would never stick to my New Year’s resolution…5 years ago.
  5. I love to cook, but recipes baffle me
  6. I would rather have 3 outfits that I look Ah-maz-ing in than 20 outfits that I look O.K. in
  7. I’m a fan of punk

My versatile nominees!:

  1. Leena’s Creative Box
  2. Teacup Talk
  3. The view from my window
  4. Leaves et Livres
  5. Project Relish
  6. Simple Dimple site
  7. Third Time Lucky
  8. Amy Lucia
  9. Retirement and Beyond
  10. Dancing with Mosquitos
  11. The incidentalist
  12. Life of an El Paso Woman
  13. A Cooking Pot and Twisted Tales
  14. A Beautiful Whim
  15. Rat Race of my Life

All the best to my lovely nominees, I look forward to reading more!

Thanks for reading!

-Mliae

Winter slim-down week 14

I realized last night that due to my fear of boring my readers to tears, I have not gone into as much detail about my eating or exercise habits as I should be, on my weekly updates. I have been fortunate to have Chape checking in on me and trying to steer me in the proper direction (good luck, Chape), as well as a few real darlings like Marlene Dotterer, who have  been thoughtful enough to comment on what I need to watch out for. So, for those of you who are actually reading this, here it is…laid bare.

For starters, I will say that that scale is still back and forth over 2 kilo’s (5 lbs) and when I least want it, it shows nearing my original weight when I still had 10 kg (or 20 lbs) to shed. This, frustrates me to no end! I know that most of it is my fault alone. An occasional lack of willpower, trying too many different things, not exercising enough..maybe? I have changed the basis of my nutrition, as myself and my S.O. decided to try to go vegan. I’m addicted to cheese, so that’s been challenging to cut back on and I flatly refuse to cut out honey. But we’ve switched from cow’s milk to almond, rice or soy milk. And we are eating more pasta, rice and tortilla wraps than I am comfortable with. Don’t get me wrong – I like it. But as an accompaniment to every meal, it just seems a bit much. This of course, raises the challenge of couples and their eating habits. One whose metabolism is on fire and is usually the chef…and the other who just eats happily and hopes to catch up at some point.

Most of my meals this week have consisted of either steamed veg, cooked soy strips, or hummus and one of the accompanying carbs. There were 2 nights when we were just too tired to care and found ourselves scarfing down waffle fries and cider. (Yes, this is horrible…I know) My other diet fast food is this nutrilett soup. It’s rare, but sometimes I’m in a hurry, its cold and this is the best bet I can manage so I’m not starving half an hour later.

As per the photo; I did it, yes. I am sometimes in a rush and don’t cook every meal, so I bought a package of nutrilett soups and have been eating their protein bars for at least a year now. (Keeps me from going straight to the closest junk food when I’m hungry).

The vitamins I’ve been taking and trying to work into my diet when I do actually cook. (Grabbing oranges, bananas and apples on my way out the door doesn’t count as cooking, but it does count as healthy food) are helping. I can already see a noticeable difference in my energy levels (Thanks to some sunshine also) and my hair looks healthier. I’ve been focused mainly on taking vitamin C, vitamin D, MSM (which is sulfur) at a very low dose, and a green smoothie vitamin pack which contains 25 varying  supplements and ingredients including seaweeds, agave, spirulina, barley, clorella, apple, beetroot, berries, carrot, broccoli,shiitake, spinach, parsley, kale, etc. I have been eating some flax and chia seeds daily, as well. I have to say that the MSM has had some noticeably awesome effects. My hair, nails and skin are looking better and my energy level is increasing. (I’m sure the energy is a result of all the supplements). I have stuck to my mild daily exercise plan. Which is difficult sometimes, but do-able by the end of the day.

Any suggestions for this upcoming week?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

The new additions to my winter capsule wardrobe

These leather lined burgundy wedge ankle boots made by  Clark’s shoes   are awesome! I purchased them from Halonen recently and I absolutely adore them. This is the first feature of my new weekly finds blogging event feature in conjunction with adarkworldinside.

Fashionable shoes are always a bonus to any wardrobe, even though sometimes it can be a bit difficult to navigate because everyone seems to have an opinion on the type of heel. In or out? Some designers will say that any shoes with platforms are unfashionable now because women should be walking like ballerinas in skyscraper stilettos (Yes, I agree) and not pounding down flat footed in chunky heels. I can see the point easily, as in Northern Europe, the whole 70’s platform is coming back and some women walk like truck drivers in those things. Ironically, chunky heels seem to be making a design comeback as well. However, wedges are a different thing entirely, if you ask me.

Take these ankle boots. If you look at the photo, you can see that the wedge is streamlined…thin at the heel and follows the line of the shoe daintily. Also, there’s a comfort factor where the wearer does not have to feel every little bump in the road and teeter over it accordingly. These shoes are sturdier than that. Which for me, makes them perfect. Because I can use these on the ice, and while prancing along cobblestone streets without the impending fear of hitting a cobblestone the wrong way and breaking my ankle on the way down. Sold!

This particular pair is perfect for my winter capsule wardrobe (which is basically my autumn capsule wardrobe only including my Tory Burch sweater and Burberry cashmere slacks in neutral beige). Since these are a deep burgundy wine colour, they really go with everything in my wardrobe. For those of you who have not read my capsule wardrobe posts which you can find here, this season’s capsule wardrobe colours are mainly neutral beige’s and golds, dark blue’s, skinny jeans, eggshell and burgundy. For autumn, I used a knee high light beige suede knee boot with a thicker 5 inch heel. Sadly, those are unsuitable for icy weather. So these new boots are my fashion go-to and I’m so happy I bought them!

What are your favorite winter fashion shoes?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

Of Blogging and Followers: Blogging 101

2

I had to share this post written by Jonathan Olivier. It hits upon crucial points that we, as bloggers, sometimes forget to take its importance into account. It’s a ‘often thought, but not spoken’ form of a rant which serves as a reminder to all of us that we should treat the blogosphere with respect. I can’t say how many times I’ve been tempted to post a blogging etiquette article… Great one, Jonathan! Keep up the good work 🙂

Winter slim-down update week 13

It’s official…I’m a yo-yo. Up, down, up, down… In 3 days again I managed (despite my good intentions for a majority of the time) to pack back on more weight. But then, it started melting away again.

Yesterday, which easily ranked in my lifetime top 20 most stressful days, to my astonishment I actually LOST weight! Really surprising considering that I was in that kind of mood that I really didn’t care about what I was putting in my mouth or in my shopping bag. I just wanted to feel better. I even went so far as to lunch out at a pizza buffet (God, its been years since I’ve done that) and, shamefully, ate half a container of chocolate cake frosting. Plus, all the accoutrements. When I stepped on the scale this morning, dreading the read-out…it was more than 1 lb lower than yesterday. I was like ‘How the hell did that happen?!’. Not complaints here, I’ll take an actual free day that doesn’t come back to haunt me…literally…for once!

Which brings me to my next mini-rant. Free-days, cheat days, call them what you will. This diet phenom which allows us to eat whatever our little hearts desire for one day a week so we don’t freak out about all the restrictions of dieting and drop the diet like a hot…apple. In theory, this works well. Yesterday, it worked fantastically (the exception to the rule, it seems). But thats the ONLY time I haven’t found myself in a sincere state of regret and frustration the day after a ‘free day’. For the most part, I’ve found that free days have a way of sabotaging aaaallllllll the hard work I’ve done for the rest of the week. (Or cheat holidays, hence the frustration now as I should’ve stayed on the diet over the holidays and I wouldn’t be starting all over; + some, now.) I even whined about it to my fellow blogger at Chape. So sadly, I’ve decided to cut out free days until I reach my diet goals. Ggggrrr :/

The sun is shining now so even though it’s still really cold, I don’t feel the need to just burrow in, fatten up and wait out the weather. More energy = less appetite in my case and that’s also a positive.

This week, I’m holding strong with the current exercise plan. My alterations for the upcoming week include 1) no more free days  AND 2) incorporating a better nutrition / vitamin / nutrient regime. Yes, I already take vitamins…of course. But I’ve always had a ‘thing’ with taking too many vitamins on the same day, or taking the same vitamins for a long period of time. I truly believe that one’s body becomes accustomed to receiving vital nutrients from an external source, and in many cases kind of says to itself ‘well, there’s enough coming in, so we don’t have to produce so much’. This is why people tend to fall slightly ill once a break from taking a daily vitamin occurs. Firstly, your body has to realize that its no longer receiving the vitamin, and then the slow process of starting to produce it itself begins again. Hopefully. However, there are many minerals or vitamins which help the body to function better which are only received through the foods we eat. Vitamin C, for example. I’ve also been informed that eating oranges and the like, which contain vitamin C will help curb chocolate cravings. Sign me up!  Sulfur also, is not produced in the body but it helps us to take away and hold more collagen from the foods we eat, which in turns helps us to feel better and is THE MAIN issue in aging skin, hair and nails. Ladies, pay attention! So its these kind of nutrients which are only received externally that I will be paying close attention to starting this week. Now. Today. I’ll check in next week and let you know how it worked out!

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

Daily post: Now you see me…

22

…or then again, maybe you don’t! If I had a superpower where I could appear and disappear at will, when and where would I use this superpower? Oh boy! Thank you, daily post for such a fun prompt! I just HAD to join in this one!

I’m assuming this is in modern day and that if I tried to extend it to time travel, my cellular structure would get all screwy and I’d wind up looking like a defunct Mrs. Potato Head in the 18th century. So, we’ll scrap that.

  • Halloween
    • Yes. Absolutely. I’d wander around neighborhoods invisible, and then magically reappear right as a large group of trick or treaters were walking up to a door. Muahahaha…talk about screams!
  • Free Travel  
    • OK, this is 200% in violation of the superhero code of ethics…and mine as well. Buuuutttt….if we’re talking about fantasy, let’s go there! I would totally be tempted to board an international airline with the first class passengers while invisible (Yes, the handbag might be a bit of a problem but we can deal with that later), find an empty first class seat, plop myself down and chill until we arrive at whatever destination we seem to be going!
  • Parks and Gardens after dark 
    • Due to safety concerns and vandalism, many of the most beautiful parks and gardens around the globe now lock down at a certain time and that’s it. I would be invisible until everyone was gone, and then I would just sit and enjoy the peaceful beauty and fragrant flora.
  • Neurotic germaphobe investigates
    • I would go into hotels and restaurants while invisible before/during/after hours to check out the public hygiene practices of the place and then report back here!
  • Important meetings
    • ECB, Federal reserve, Parliamentary meetings…you got it and you can BET I’ll be there! If interest rates rise, I’ll let you know (and start paying down my loans a WHOLE LOT FASTER). Raising taxes? No problemo…I’ll be there! Decisions to alter anyone’s constitution? You’ll hear me whining loudly! It’s such a nerdy thing to admit, but I feel like being able to take back a little of the freedoms and availability of information that the world has recently sacrificed both knowingly and unknowingly would be of great assistance. Not exactly sure I’m the ‘man’ for the job…but it would be great to be the metaphorical ‘fly on the wall’.
  • Least of all, would I be an actual super hero
    • I’m a chicken. Being invisible and then being so scared I didn’t realize I left my sunglasses sitting on my head, just to be busted (and beaten) by a villainous super – not super hero is exactly my M.O. and I’d be glad to avoid it.

More than perfect photo borrowed from Schizoidlawi …Thank you 🙂

What would you do with your power of at-will invisibility?

Some of my fellow super-hero’s:

  1. Pulling a rabbit out of the hat at Jitterygt
  2. anglo-swiss chronicles
  3. Ruthless games
  4. Radioactive Bubblegum
  5. The Story of a guy
  6. Theresa Barker
  7. PGHlesbian
  8. Finding life
  9. Time Passages
  10. Love and Death and Everything in Between

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

Product review: CHANEL concealer in #10 beige clair

I will start by saying that this product is worth every cent spent on it. I’ve been searching for a concealer that can give me full coverage without looking like I’m wearing a mask of make-up, and I think this might be the one.

I have been using MAC on a semi-religious basis for years. But when my concealer was finally finito this time, I decided I would try something new from another one of my favorite brands and see if it suited me any better.

My skin tone fluctuates drastically between summer and late winter. In the winters, I really think I’m heading in the Morticia Adams direction by the time the sun starts shining. Now, winter skin is never a bad thing. But winter eye bags are. If you’re anything like me, your sleep is erratic at best, and those monstrous purple bags shine brightly like a trophy of a night well spent. NOT. COOL.

I went in search of a product that was thick enough to actually cover the dark circles, but not paint-it-on thick. After trying out several, this one really seemed to do the trick. I’ve been using this daily for more than a month now and I can definitely say that I love it! It smoothes and blends in easily, covers the bad spots and is even suitable for contouring. This is a product I will purchase again.

What are some of your favorite products?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

 

3 Day Quote Challenge: Final Day

Thank you Chape Personal Trainer for nominating me for this challenge. It was lots of fun!  (I hope you’ll go check them out).
The Challenge seems simple enough, so I hope some of you will also accept the challenge and share.

There are 3 Challenge rules:

  • You need to post for 3 days in a row
  • You must pick 1-3 quotes daily
  • In each post, you must challenge 3 bloggers

Today’s quotes are from another one of my all time favorite authors…Dr. Seuss! We can end with a smile 😀

‘I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. ‘

‘You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go.’

And because it’s the last quote of my challenge:

‘Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.’

My nominees today are:

Geoff at past go

Amra at Perfect-the-days

Mind and life matters

Thanks for reading and I hope you continue the challenge!

-mliae

Day 2 of the 3 Day Quote Challenge

Thank you Chape Personal Trainer   for nominating me for the challenge. A fun, helpful and informative site. (I hope you’ll go check them out).
The Challenge seems simple enough, so I hope some of you will also accept the challenge and share

There are 3 Challenge rules:

  • You need to post for 3 days in a row
  • You must pick 1-3 quotes daily
  • In each post, you must challenge 3 bloggers

Today I’m in a Francis of Assisi kind of mood. So here we go:

‘Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.’

‘Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance.’

‘While you are proclaiming peace with your lips, be careful to have it even more fully in your heart.’

My nominees for today are:

Leennascreativebox

Alkeisvoima

A beautiful whim

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

Winter slim-down week 12

Holding strong at 63 kg’s. I was really hoping to be back down to 61 kg for this update. However, the temperature has plummeted this week to a lung freezing -30 below zero C (or -22 below 0 F) and I really think that I am hibernating. Plain and simple. It’s seriously cold out and all I want to do is sit by the fire, eat, sleep and stand in a scalding hot shower.

I didn’t do too well on the ‘diet’ part of it…although I guess that could be left to perspective because for a majority of this week I’ve been eating steamed veggies and rice. However, I did dine out once this week and didn’t consider the diet in the least when I ordered fish and chips. (Totally don’t feel guilty because I was craving this for like 5 days beforehand) And there were 2 at home meals that contained onion rings or fries. Even worse, wing sauce. Do you know that stuff has a TON of calories in it?! I didn’t have a clue until I looked at the bottle whilst drowning my food in it. So – guilty.

However, I did great on the exercise portion of this regime and managed to keep off any additional weight from the comfort food I fed myself. So on this point I’m very proud of myself and highly motivated to continue adding in exercises each week. At the moment we have: squats, hand weights, walking, planks, leg lifts and kettle bells. This week I’m adding in a starting of 40 jumping jacks. These I’ll do the minute I manage to climb out f bed because it’s a good exercise to open those eyes, plus I’m hoping it will also help to get the blood pumping and warm this girl up!

Speaking of warming up, I’ve also been advised to start eating ginger throughout the day to keep myself warm. This should also help the diet. Apparently, my nose, hands and well everywhere are so cold, I’m like snuggling up to a frozen turkey. Hmph. Hmph. We’ll see about that!

I’ve also begun keeping an excel spreadsheet of everything I put in my mouth (vitamins included), daily weight and daily exercise. I’m hoping that this will help me to visualize what I’m doing to myself and aid to my shedding those final 8 kgs or 17 lbs.

What works for you? Any tips to share?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

3 Day Quote Challenge

I accepted this challenge from Chape Personal Trainer  A very interesting, helpful and forgiving site. (I hope you’ll go check them out).

The Challenge seems simple enough, so I hope some of you will also accept the challenge and share.

There are 3 Challenge rules:

  • You need to post for 3 days in a row
  • You must pick 1-3 quotes daily
  • In each post, you must challenge 3 bloggers

Today I’m quoting Anthony Damiani. He penned one of my favorite books Standing in your own way: Talks on the nature of ego

Most people don’t know or don’t accept the fact that if they had no thoughts they would be happy.’

…but when you look at the dream, you know that the dream character borrowed whatever consciousness he or she has from the person having the dream.

The recognition that the ego is part of the world’s being comes upon you and you stop saying that it doesn’t exist.

My nominees for today:

Roo’s ruse

Mrs Strawberry Blonde 

Brew N Spew

Until tomorrow!

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

One Lovely Blog Award

20

A big fat THANK YOU to Chape, one of the coolest bloggers I’ve had the pleasure of connecting to in the blogosphere, for nominating lifexperiment blog for the One Lovely Blog Award!

Rules:

  • You must thank the person who nominated you and includes a link to their blog.
  • You must list the rules and display the award
  • You must add 7 facts about yourself
  • You must nominate 15 other bloggers and leave a comment on one of their posts to let them know they have been nominated.

7 Facts about me:

  1. I go nuts when I can’t travel
  2. I follow the theory ‘If my dog doesn’t like you, I don’t like you’
  3. Summer is my hands-down favorite time of year
  4. I’m a work-a-holic because I love what I do
  5. I am deadly to plants (despite my best efforts)
  6. I don’t drink fizzy drinks
  7. I adore stand-up comedy 😉

My Lovely Blog Nominees:

  1. Can I put it on my face
  2. Mrs.Strawberry Blonde
  3. Alkeisvoima
  4. Be Like Water
  5. The Book Blogger
  6. Peace Love and Bliss Balls
  7. Abigailirozuru
  8. Colin
  9. Lisa Pomerantzster
  10. Roos Ruse
  11. Fresh Cut KY
  12. IMPREINT official
  13. Sunshine and teacups
  14. Glam meets Girl
  15. Perfect the Days

Thank you to Chape and all the bloggers I nominated for posting great content!

 

New -old home purchase fail: -30 out and the pipes freeze…

That moment when something in the house has gone terribly wrong and you realize…for certain this time, that you don’t know what the hell you’re doing.

Yes. This happened. This morning actually. Woke up freezing, went to the kitchen to make the coffee and …oh, wait…oh, no…..! Turned every faucet in the place on just to hear the same ole gurgling. NOT.COOL.

Fortunately, I have some bottled water and enough in the water boiler to  heat up for washing. We took the electric radiator to the basement to warm the solid ice pipes. Which, after about 10 hours actually started to work. Splutter slat went the pipes…and we were so excited! Yay! Water! Then some crunching sounds and water everywhere. The meter ruptured. So now, here I sit – fingers, toes and everything possible crossed that the water guys will be here ASAP to fix this thing.

I love this place. I really do. But I am learning on a monthly basis that I was in no way mentally prepared to purchase and older home where I’m responsible for everything, while romanticizing the idea of renovating it to my specific tastes. It will happen, yes. And I cannot wait! But for now I could gladly read a home repair for dummies book.

Does anyone have any advice on how to prevent this in the future?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

My first canning experience

Heeeyyyy, I actually DID it! Step one of my New Years resolution to learn how to preserve food before this summer arrives. I must confess, that this was extremely intimidating at first. I spent a lot of time doing internet searches and trying to get solid advice from people I know. I managed to get a great recipe for pickled green tomato’s (have to wait until summer) and find some good options online. I also managed to almost talk myself out of it because there seems like there is so much additional stuff needed that I just don’t currently have room for. Anyway, that wasn’t the case…as you can see.

Since I’m a total amateur with this, I only did the one can. It would be so upsetting if I did make a huge pile of pickles which turned out horribly and ultimately made everyone ill. Yikes :/ OK, so I do the one jar. I kind of made my own version of an appetizer recipe that my mother sometimes makes.

What she does is places sliced cucumbers and sliced white onions in a dish and covers them with a 50/50 mix of white vinegar and water. (This mix is heated so that 1 sugar cube can disintegrate and then pours it over the cucumbers in the dish and tops with a bit of pepper) She then puts it into the refrigerator to cool for about an hour before serving.

What I did was basically the same thing. (especially since I’m expecting that these will be opened and devoured ASAP) I sanitized the jar and lid, washed and sliced a large fresh cucumber and a white onion. I layered the cucumber and onion in the jar, topping each layer with 3-4 sichuan pepper corns. I repeated this until I had it all packed in up to where the jar begins to bottleneck. I boiled a really small pot of a 3/4 vinegar & 1/4 water mix, and added 1 sugar cube. When it was boiling rapidly, I poured the mix over the cucumbers in the jar until it just covered the vegetables inside. Then I put the lid on moderately tight and left to sit. After an hour, the little bubble on the lid was flat and it was sealed. Now it’s just sitting on the cutting board pickling and looking pretty 🙂

I have no idea how it tastes, but it looks good… so I’m thinking ‘Not too shabby, eh?!’ 😀

My next preserving experiment to come soon. How are your resolutions coming along? The daily post has a great feed discussing this topic.

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

Winter slim-down week 11

Hello all

I’m a couple days behind on this update, so my apologies. I guess you can easily imagine how this post holiday diet update is going to go, based on the meme. (Yes, I HAD to use it)

So here’s how this train wreck went down: After 10 days of celebrating (3 days of Christmas, 2 days of New Years celebrations and 2 birthdays -all in that 10 day period), I …uh….gained a little weight. OK, I gained A LOT of weight! Once off that diet train, it seems as though the train just ran me over. There was one diet blogger who I follow @thebigfatcleanup who managed to say NO-GO to the feasting and beasting during the holly-daze, so I have to give her a big fat shout out! Girl, next year, I’ll listen!

My first weigh-in after the holidays showed me that not only had I managed to gain ALL the weight back that I’ve been struggling to lose over the past 2,5 months…but an additional 0,6 kg over the top! I weighed more than my starting weight!! (starting weight: 64,1 kg – New Years weight: 64,7 kg/143 lbs!) Needless to say, I spent the next hour or so having a minor freak-out. Luckily, some of the weight melted away after about 2 days of watching what I was putting into my mouth and continuing to exercise. (Current weight: 63 kg/139 lbs)

Getting back to what I was doing before my disastrous holiday break, and incorporating the new kettle bell exercises and planks are the plan for this week. Also, to my S.O. who feeds me lots of really healthy food, steamed and baked with love – I will be cutting back on my serving sizes…just the tiniest bit. And I’ll give you a spatula to wave around while lecturing me about my sweet tooth when busted sneaking cookie dough. 😉

I’m hoping that with a lot of effort and some well rehearsed restraint, I can be back to 61 kg /134,5 lbs by my next weeks update. Then we can continue the progress where I should not have left off 2 weeks ago. Fingers crossed!

How’d your holiday dieting go?

Thanks for reading!

-mliae

New Years resolution time…

3

Whoop! Whoop! HAPPY NEW YEAR, 2016!! 😀

Aaahhh, it’s that time of year again. Time to look over your past achievements and failures, time to make that somewhat reasonable wish list for your year ahead, time to contemplate (and dismiss) all your former yearly resolutions. Some actually achieved and some that lacked.

For me? I’ve done the whole gung-ho ‘I’m going to diet and exercise and be healthy, wealthy and young for eternity thing.’ Guess what? Didn’t stick. Since I’ve already been dieting and exercising for the past 2,5 months, it seems like an unfair head start on a resolution. Time to find another challenge to add to the game.

One year, I did manage to make it an entire year without colouring my hair…and have actually managed to stick to it for the last several years since. I also managed to quit smoking Although I’m not sure whether to count that or not, as it took at least 15 tries before I put the pack down permanently. I also stuck to the plan that I wanted to get my degree abroad. At least long enough to actually get my degree! And this year, I purchased my first home. A farmhouse. A fixer-upper, but it’s mine and as of this minute, it’s still standing so I’m happy 😉 Which brings me to…this years’ resolution!

IMG_4624

 

Canning! That’s correct 🙂  Welcome yourself to another new experiment. This undomesticated female is starting, as of today, to learn how to preserve food. I mean to learn not only how to can, but also how to dry, freeze, preserve in oil, etc. Before you start scratching your head, let me explain. There is method to my madness. Although my land area is quite small, it’s also quite full. There are lots of berry bushes and some fruit and veg plants that have been growing for a very long time it seems. I plan to go on a planting binge myself when Spring arrives and I really really would like to be able to use everything I am able to harvest during the year. A) It’s the healthiest option as I don’t use pesticide sprays. B) I spend a fortune at the market, so it would help me to save money for the fun stuff, like traveling, shopping and this desperately needed home reno. C) Seriously, who doesn’t want to be able to enjoy their own home grown food?

So that’s the deal. I have nothing but vinegar and a few canning jars at the moment. I’ll be trying to learn the old fashioned way before all the extra pots and canners. (Mainly since I don’t have a clue what I’m doing, so simpler is always better) Today I was given my very first canning recipe for pickled green tomato’s. Yum!

I gladly welcome any advice, recipes, warnings or ideas about food preservation. Please share, as I am an amateur!

Stay tuned, I’ll be blogging about my progress while learning this.

Thanks for reading and HAPPY NEW YEAR!

-mliae