OK, Let’s Talk…

Time to get a bit personal, ladies and gentlemen.

I’m not usually the type of blogger who shares the details of my life which are truly personal…like down to the core, personal. I like to keep things in my life on the positive side, and don’t generally even like to speak about the difficulties one might be having. However, this is something that has truly gotten my attention, and as my fellow bloggers, I am hoping that you may have some words of wisdom on how to navigate the storm.

As you might well know, recently, I have been blogging daily. I love it. This takes time. Lots of time and tons of energy. No problemo, it’s worth it πŸ™‚ I’ve also been getting ready for the impending holidays with a fervor that rivals only our upcoming wedding. And the wedding planning…we actually had to take a time-out from that for a bit, as we wanted to spend at least as much time planning our marriage as we were planning our wedding. (So that’s why you haven’t been seeing tons of wedding posts recently). And the job? Well, you can imagine that all of this equals one very tiredΒ Mliae.

Since I have attributed all of this to my sluggishness, you can imagine my utter shock when I went in to have my ear checked (accompanied by a blood test) and I was informed that I was basically running on like 30% of the blood that a normal healthy woman my age should have. They had me sent to the hospital that same day. Among other things, I received several blood transfusions. This is terrifying. I am so disease-phobic that the mere thought of having another persons blood running through my veins was enough to make me break down into tears. And then, it happened. I found myself frantically trying to write posts from my phone in the ICU. I am addicted to my blog and cannot bear the thought of going MIA for days, that is crystal clear now.

We are not yet sure what is causing this and are keeping a close eye on things. It is disconcerting because I usually like to run at high-speed. Like, neurotic squirrel – high speed. (That is how my fiancΓ© refers to it, anyway.) Everyone else seems to be more aware of the seriousness of this, except for myself. I just don’t want to contemplate that there might be something seriously wrong. I don’t want to be sick. I want to be my happy, healthy, squirrel-y self again. Because of all of this mess, my loved-ones have been telling me in quite loud voice, that I am not allowed to be a work-a-holic until this is rectified. I spend all day, every day blogging and working. You know that feeling when your goals are within reach and you know that all you need is ‘one more push’ to break through that wall? That’s how I feel. That’s what drives me. I will continue, there’s no question there. But, how does one circumvent the situation when there are things which need constant attention and those around you are treating you like a fragile granny – just sit and relax – when you really just want to run around the block?

This must be said: A HUGE THANK YOU to all of you out there who take the time to donate blood! It is a life-saver! ❀

My question is this: I know that most all of you have to carefully schedule and prioritize. How do you do it? What do you do when you are running at ‘full steam ahead’ and then suddenly, a massive wall appears?

Thanks for reading and hopefully, sharing advice too!

-Mliae

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48 Comments Add yours

  1. Oh no! Do feel better quickly! That is a must. I have been blogging less lately due to my chronic pain…it makes me sad. I’m also trying to find some ‘happy’ to share, and find that difficult since my country went all halfsies and hired the wrong man for the job. As for me, I wake up insanely early, as to not affect family time or work time. But bottom line, FEEL BETTER! ❀

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you Lisa, you are the nicest person ❀ I always look forward to it when you share 'happy' πŸ™‚
      Your country did do a complete flip-flop with the election. Everyone is…stunned!

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      1. πŸ˜ŠπŸ™ƒπŸ˜Š

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  2. chape says:

    IΒ΄m sorry you have health issues. I think the best you can do is being a good patient πŸ™‚ You know you have to rest, take care and face whatever it is with your positivity. There is no other priority than you right now, havenΒ΄t you realize it yet? πŸ˜‰

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    1. mliae says:

      Thanks, David, for being awesome πŸ™‚ You know I’m a horrible patient…like a 6 year old, always wanting to go out and play and never liking to listen to what I’m being told ;P But I will trrryyyy to remember that I’m the priority. Hugs!

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  3. Sorry to hear you’re ill – I hope you’re feeling better soon!

    As to what do I do when I’m torn between blogging and other things – I just stop blogging and just let a silence develop. Then I plough back in as if nothing happened. I think it’s a bit like a conversation – silences happen. You don’t need to fill conversational silences with your train of thought; you just speak when you’ve something to say or reply to (I mean ‘you’ as in ‘one’, not ‘you’ as in you personally Mliae!)

    Just now I’m not feeling able to write because I’m not in a happy place at all (I’m fine, but 3 friends are coincidentally and individually going through a pretty devastating time). My waking minutes are spent thinking about them, talking to them, doing what little I can to help. If I continued blogging, I’d write about the things going on in my life. Yet I can’t – I’d feel that sharing my friends’ distress and anguish would be intrusive and disrespectful. But writing about the less important things going on would feel like I was ignoring 3 big tragedies. So I’m staying silent for a bit.

    I’m not saying that’s what you should do – actually, just the opposite! Blog-silence is what feels right for me just now, and I’m not afraid of it. But if the thing almost-preventing me writing was entirely to do with me, then I’d have no qualms about writing myself into feeling better (whether through articulating how I was feeling, gaining electronic support or using it as a normalising touchstone, I’m not sure), as I’d have no-one else’s feelings to consider.

    That’s a really, really long way of saying: if blogging is making you feel better, then blog, and blog about whatever subject helps you feel better. Don’t blog because you feel you have to.

    I really hope you’re feeling your old self again very soon xxx

    (fnaaaar πŸ˜‰ )

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you so much for putting things in perspective! I 100% agree with you about not blogging about your friends’ situations. I would be absolutely mortified if someone was talking/writing about me and a delicate situation. Good for you for respecting their privacy! I wish there were more people like that. I do hope your friends find themselves in a better place in life soon!
      For me, I think I would go even more ‘stir-crazy’ if I weren’t able to blog. I don’t know what it is exactly, but thats the thing anyway.
      I look forward to reading your posts when the break in conversation resides πŸ˜‰

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      1. Ha, I’m currently channeling my energies into knitting and crocheting like a whirlwind, otherwise I would be bashing off the walls – I’m like you with the stir-craziness πŸ™‚

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      2. mliae says:

        Glad to be in good company πŸ˜€

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  4. ghostmmnc says:

    It’s hard to not do your normal activities, like blogging, when you want to. I found out when our computer went down, it’s such a routine thing to do. Right now the most important thing is to take whatever means are necessary to get yourself and your health back to 100%. Take care of you, and feel better soon. xo

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you so much! I’ve been thinking about when your pc crashed, and hoping I don’t have to deal with the same in the near future. I think I would have a meltdown. Needed to hear that πŸ™‚ Xo

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  5. Oh no, hope you are feeling better soon!! I love how honest you are in this post.

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you so much πŸ™‚ That’s good to hear, I was honestly a bit nervous how my honesty would be perceived.

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  6. angyjenks says:

    Yea I got make an appointment to give some..

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    1. mliae says:

      Please do! πŸ˜€

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  7. hoiyinli says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of your condition but I do hope you get better soon ❀

    You just have to think of it like this: there is a time when our bodies need rest and I mean full rest. I know how you feel because I'm a bit of a workaholic myself and once I stop, I kinda don't know what to do with myself, but take it as a time to relax and bounce back from.

    When I first started blogging, I hadn't gotten into the rhythm yet so of course there were some posts that I tried really hard to write, but it was also a bit forceful because I need content for my blog, right? Now that it's become much more natural to me, I'm full of ideas and enjoying it a whole lot more than when I started. So my advice is take it easy. And if you're inspired to write/blog, then well…blog! But don't feel forced to do so. It's okay to miss out a post or two, maybe even three because health really does come first.

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you for your kind words πŸ™‚ It is nice to hear it from a fellow workaholic. You’re absolutely right. When I step away from work or blogging, its like, I don’t know what to do with myself. Instant recipe for stir-crazy. Why is that??

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      1. hoiyinli says:

        I think cos our mind and body is just so used to be on ‘on’ mode that we forget to ‘reset’. Just think of it as a time to recharge your batteries and come back and write even more amazing content! πŸ‘ŒπŸΌ

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      2. mliae says:

        Nailed it. Recharging now πŸ˜‰ You’re awesome πŸ™‚

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  8. Mavis Chuma says:

    Hope you get well soon.Beginning of October I started getting nausea and dizziness.Could not go to work and haven’t been to work ever since.The Dr said I had fluid in the ears.Latter on had to have blood work .Results: some low levels on some vitamins.

    Am feeling much better but when things were that bad,I felt really bad cause I could not blog.I love to read around,get ideas etc.

    What’s my point? That taught me a lesson.Health is more important than our accomplishments.If one does not cars of it,It’s gonna be difficult to be productive.Your family is right.Take care of yourself.Read around and if you are gonna do any blogging,no pushing yourself around.I hope this helps.

    You are a winner

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you so much πŸ™‚ All things I needed to hear. How are you doing now?

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  9. I was in the hospital last April for 5 days with an unexplained tear in my stomach. I had to have staples in my stomach and blood transfusions. Doctors have no explanation as to why this happened, and one doctor told me that I was the healthiest person he had ever seen who had experienced this. The medicine I was given to help heal my stomach caused unusual side effects. It has been quite a challenge, even now. I no longer post as often as I did. I do what must be done around the house, go to work, visit with friends and family and otherwise rest. Of course, I am much older than you, but don’t worry about not being able to do everything you want. It will get better. If your body needs rest, then rest. I pray good health and a return of strength to you!

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    1. mliae says:

      OMG! That sounds horrible! How are you feeling now? Side effects are also something I worry about it. Thank you for sharing your story πŸ™‚

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      1. I’m much, much better. Thank you!

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  10. Get better soon! I’m hoping it’s nothing serious and just your body asking for a chance to rest for a little bit. Keep us posted…when you’re up to it of course.

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you and I will πŸ™‚

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  11. I hope the problem is resolved soon. I suppose there is no point in suggesting you give yourself a rest?

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    1. mliae says:

      Me too πŸ™‚ Thank you, Derrick! I am trying to give myself some rest…have to just quiet the brain a bit somehow πŸ˜‰

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  12. dray0308 says:

    Reblogged this on DREAM BIG DREAM OFTEN and commented:
    I am enjoying my time on Life Experiment Blog!!

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  13. Honesty for days!! Love it. I just started in the blogging world and couldn’t be more pumped to write about things I love.

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  14. rugby843 says:

    In my opinion, you just keep going. If you can fix what’s wrong, fix it. If blogging is your passion, keep doing it until you can’t lift your fingers to the page. Health is a part of life that sometimes just spits in your eye, challenging you. So fight it. This probably not the sympathetic answer you’ll usually get or even want. I empathize, and if you want to yell, go ahead. I can take it! πŸ™ƒ

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    1. mliae says:

      Nailed it. πŸ˜‰

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      1. rugby843 says:

        I’m glad you took it the way I intended.πŸ˜ŒπŸ‘πŸ»

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  15. juantetcts says:

    I have to remember that while I love blogging, I need to also prioritize my health. If I drop dead, I am not available to blog at all so need to take care of myself so I can at least stay afloat!. I actually work three jobs so while my health is good, I have to be at work at 4am on one job so must ensure I get some sleep and also exercise! What I do is use the blog word of the day on the days I am too busy to put a lot of thought into blogging. That’s literally most days, but I try to post something daily, even if it’s just a photo.

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    1. mliae says:

      Have to give a LOL to the first part of your statement. You are absolutely right and tell the truth as brutal as it is.
      3 jobs?! Holy cow! I do hope you are able to get some R&R at some point.

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  16. juantetcts says:

    I’m definitely slowing down. My goal was to get out the remaining debt post divorce, then start my own business. Completed the debt goal , now building business . Prefer blogging to it all so working on a plan for that as well, but health is always my priority as I can’t do anything without it.

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    1. mliae says:

      Congratulations! Not easy things to do, you should be giving yourself a HUGE pat on the back!

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      1. juantetcts says:

        I am indeed, thanks for the acknowledgement!

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      2. mliae says:

        Good πŸ˜€

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  17. I hope they sort out your health problem very quickly. I make lists and number the points in order – add in a couple of things I have already done and then tick them off so I feel I’ve made a good start. Then work my way down the list as far as I can.

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    1. mliae says:

      You sound really organized. I would probably lose the list and forget totally what I was supposed to be doing.

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  18. Please take care and keep a watch on your health. Your health is the most important thing. Set limits. and try to take a nap every day. People here in India try to always have an afternoon nap. It’s a good thing. You don’t want your health to break down. You can blog every day, but take it easy. All the best. πŸ™‚ — Suzanne

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    1. mliae says:

      Thank you so much Suzanne πŸ™‚ I’m really hoping I get this thing knocked…and soon. I went in to today for my follow-up blood work, so fingers crossed I get ‘no news’, it’s so much better than a call back to the emergency. I love the nap idea! πŸ˜€

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  19. HarlemATL says:

    Even the hare and squirrel has its moments of being weary. Keep in mind . Some situations are not meant for you to change. Some situations are meant to change you.

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