Slightly embarrassing yet totally humiliating moment

When your speaking to your future father-in-law in English to avoid language confusion and you get tongue tied when wishing him good luck with a renovation project on his way out, and accidentally say ‘Good luck on your dick digging!’. There is no coming back from that. He left without a word & I almost cried.

Open mouth, insert foot.

-Mliae

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When you just need a really good BEER

Greetings everyone 🙂

I have to preface this by stating that I am not a beer drinker on the regular. I usually prefer wine when I do drink. But sometimes, I find myself in a pub with friends or after a long day of yard work out in the sun and I like to try new beers. Sometimes they are ok, sometimes they are GREAT!

I do prefer dark beers. I’m not sure why, exactly. But it seems like the lighter beers just taste so light. If I’m drinking a beer, I want to drink a BEER. The darker the roast, the better.

Now, I have been offered Christmas darks, chocolate darks and the like. But this Organic Chocolate Stout from Samuel Smith is REALLY GOOD. So good that I had to post about it. It’s a bit on the pricier side, running at €6 per bottle in the market. But I promise you, if you have a taste for dark beer, you will most definitely be buying more than 1 bottle after you taste this.

Please note: This is NOT a sponsored post. It is a voluntary review about an item I freely chose & purchased. And loved.

What are some of your faves? Any recommendations? I’d love to try!

-Mliae

Finally Found My Wedding Shoes!

After searching high and low for the perfect indoor/outdoor wedding shoes for like …months, I finally found my pair!

These awesome flats were surprisingly more affordable than their white ballet flat counterparts and have just the right mix of glam, comfort and simplicity that this stiletto whore was searching for. Yay me!

One of my worst wedding nightmares involves me tripping over my own dress, so I had the front of the dress altered to hit right at the toes, so these should (hopefully) peek through beautifully.

The day is fast approaching…feels great to have these thing done!

What do you think?

-Mliae

Wedding Cake Topper Decision

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Greetings earthlings 🙂

Well, we’ve finally decided how to do the cake! If you read my post about finding all the most hilarious wedding cake toppers, you know that I really craved something that show-cased our odd sense of humor. (OK, MY odd sense of humor. His humor is a bit less twisted.)  If you would like to read the post, you can find it by clicking here.

Anywho, we’ve decided that since our biggest detail crush seems to be the flowers (& entertainment), that we will use some of the flowers for the cake topper. Not anything over the top (Lolz, pun intended) but something simple, like the pinterest pic I downloaded here.  You’d be amazed. I googled flower cake toppers and there were some real major flowers that were the size of the cake! We don’t want a big floppy flower cake hat, just something small, simple and beautiful. Maybe add a flower or 2 on the crest of the lower level.

What do you think? Love it, or hate it?

-Mliae

Back to Basics

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In a world where we are driven to obtain the newest, the coolest, the best and most expensive items at an ever increasing rate, I’ve finally had enough.

One really can’t help to notice the discrepancies in society. People are living in war zones, being tortured, brutally murdered, starving, trying to escape in any way possible. And what do the rest of us do? We shop. We shop for the newest and most stylish furniture. We shop the latest trends and fashions. We buy cheap crap that does absolutely nothing but take up space. And why do we do it? Because we’re told we have to…for a multitude of reasons.

  • We need to ‘bolster’ the economy
  • We must keep up with the Jones’s
  • Little Johnny won’t understand an investment into his future, best buy him a toy he may or may not play with
  • We must surpass the Jones’s
  • To be successful, we must look successful. (My personal favourite & it’s true. However, we don’t need 200 ‘successful’ outfits that aren’t being worn)

It’s ALL marketing. Every last bit of it. We’re bombarded with marketing 24/7. Not just the obvious types: TV, movies, billboards, commercials, flyers and the like. But like, everywhere. The sugar in your childs’ cereal & the pictures on the box, the hot girl/guy walking down the street in a billabong T-shirt (This is a whole other post. I don’t understand why people pay so much to be walking advertisements for brands?) It’s the lady/gentleman sitting next to you in a bar sipping extraordinary brandy. It’s all extremely well researched marketing that tells you, that YOU are old, out of style, ugly, poor, dirty, basic. And it shows! But we can fix that with a newer & larger home, more modern furniture, the newest instagram worthy watch / diet fad /must-have cosmetics, a shiny new car, this fantastic food which is actually unhealthy as hell (but you’ll never know it), or this €/$ 2000 gown made from recycled trash bags. You need these things. Oh yea, and in 1 months’ time you’ll need all new things or you’ll be old, ugly & poor again.

Bolstering the economy is a joke. The only economy we are bolstering, is the 1%. True, there are jobs. But the ratio of jobs to spending doesn’t match in any accountants books. What we are doing is fulfilling the ever increasing profit margins that companies set that year. When a company declares a loss, in most cases, it is because it did not meet its profit predictions for the year. They over spent. But if you look at the stock history, you will see that the profit predictions are higher than the last. Every. Single. Year. No economy can sustain unbridled growth. The end result is the same globally: Financial crises.

Ever wonder how by the time you get your new stilettos or speakers home, there’s a new chunky heel trend or taller smarter speakers?! How lightbulbs used to last MANY years, but now they die on the regular? It’s called OBSOLESCENCE defined by oxford dictionary as ‘The process of becoming obsolete or outdated and no longer used’. This is a very real tool corporations use in order to maintain sales. There are 2 types of obsolescence. Planned obsolescence (lightbulbs) and Perceived obsolescence (fashion).

Planned obsolescence is when items are designed to break so that they must be replaced. I know, a lot of people think this is just conspiracy theory. But it isn’t. There are actually innumerable memos from the 70’s which are out there, openly discussing planned obsolescence. Why? Because it was considered a form of marketing and nothing more. Design a product so the life span is shorter, and your customers must replace it. Most of the memos discuss the ‘ideal’ lifespan of products. This took years of research because if a product died too quickly, the consumer would tell themselves that the company made sub-standard products & go elsewhere for the replacement. If the lifespan was too long, companies would loose their profit margins. So where’s the sweet spot? It used to be a decade or more for machinery. For example, my previous washing machine lasted 10 years. The one before that? Forever. This one lasted 3 years before it started to sputter. The time span gets shorter as we grow more accustomed to replacing our items. We are still saying ‘they don’t last as long as they used to’ a phrase muttered countless times in the past 60 years. And this is where perceived obsolescence kicks in.

Perceived obsolescence is when the consumer (us) is convinced that an item is old, out of style, no longer impressive to the outside world. Fashion is the largest of the arenas which employ perceived obsolescence to keep ever increasing profit margins. But, take iPhone for example. They can be both planned & perceived, but stick with me here. Raise your hand if you have purchased a new smart phone before the old one broke. Why do you do it? The never ending hunt for the newest and brightest affects ALL aspects of our lives. Even our relationships. Why do people cheat? There’s the perception that there is always someone better out there. There isn’t. There’s faster internet (which actually isn’t faster on phones, the old ones were just slowed down) there’s new apps (great, more gen pop ADHD) there’s a sleek new design. Just like fashion, which is now turning over at a staggering rate. In the 1930’s, the average woman had 9 outfits in her closet. We have hundreds of mix & match, spring/summer, fall/winter, going out, business, hanging in clothes and always on the hunt for more. In the 50’s -70’s, fashion lasted years. You could easily update your wardrobe with 1 simple piece. Now, its a complete changeover. Wedges are in (Yay! They’re comfy!) nope, wedges make you walk like a trucker. Stilettos are in. Not high enough, go skyscraper heel. Nope, those are too man-eater, go for a platform. no, not the 70’s ones, but they look like the 70’s ones. Oh wait, change of plan, Chunky heels are in. We can’t keep up! And because we are being told non-stop what the appearance of our person, our car, our homes are telling people about our personality, we feel like we HAVE to keep up. We don’t. Everything is so mixed up now that what’s out of fashion now, will be back in fashion in a year or two. Just enough time for us to toss all our out-of-date items into the bin….and then replace them. See where I’m going with this?

Do you realize that if we compare today’s economic index per household with 2 working adults with the 1970’s economic index per household with 1 working adult, the results show that we are actually bringing home LESS today than 40 years ago! The results are staggering. Of course, pay nowadays is much higher. But we are spending so much more. The average family in manyCountries (especially America, Canada & Europe) is up to their ears in debt. We are in debt because we hit hard times, of course. But mainly because of societal expectations. It’s the bigger house. A mortgage that should only take up an average of 28% of your pre-tax pay, but somehow takes up at least 70%.  The items to furnish the bigger house. The kitchen remodel of the bigger house. It’s seeing a suit you fall in love with & not having to save the money to buy it before it no longer exists. We impulse purchase without a seconds thought to the fact that we are paying 10-25% over the already sky high purchase price because we have to have it. It’s the newest phone that we don’t need. Look at us, our friends will be so jealous.

Now I am as guilty of credit card abuse as the next person. Nearly having heart palpitations at the thought of not having it (them) for ’emergencies’; Which seem to include that perfect 100% silk dress I can’t find anywhere else, instead of oh I dunno…maybe in case the pipes burst again or the walls start to crumble around me. Or if we find ourselves stuck in an airport overnight because the flight was cancelled. This happens all too often & I never have my ’emergency’ funds available for actual emergencies.

It’s a vicious cycle, really. We spend more to get more, then work harder to pay off our debt & find ourselves in a cycle of work-eat-sleep-cram all your home stuff that needs to be done in the weekends – repeat. What happened to a day of rest? What happened to our connection with nature? What happened to picnics in the park on a sunny day?!

I’m done. I’m done with all of it. Of course I like to look pretty, but I can handle a few options without needing to renovate my house for closet space. I’m done paying an exorbitant amount at the market for food I can plant in my own yard. I’m done buying electronics that I don’t need. I’m done spending my money on frequent nights out when I can’t even afford a dishwasher & spend all my time washing dishes. I’m done giving expensive gifts that people could care less about instead of making something special or giving a charitable donation. I’m DONE being told what is socially acceptable of me! I am what I am and those who love me, will accept that. To those who don’t: well, there’s the door. I’m taking it back to basics. Since we, the consumer, have the ultimate say; I challenge you all to think about your next must-have purchases. Do you really need it? Do you really love it? Why? If yes, go for it! But if not, I encourage you to leave it behind & give your wallet and hard working self a smile, for once.

Anybody else as frustrated as I am? Please, feel free to share!

-Mliae

Louis Vuitton RTW Spring 2017 Best Looks

Since we are embarking on Spring, which is always an exciting time of year for those in love with high fashion, I wanted to share this post highlighting some great looks from the Louis Vuitton Runway for the Spring/Summer 2017 season. Enjoy!

A Few Sites That Appreciate Being Reblogged.

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Hi there!

When it comes to reblogging, we should never assume that all bloggers would like their work to be shared. Many do, of course, as its a great way to create awareness of ones blog. But not all blogs are the same. Many blogs are related to specialized fields or have taken a sincere amount of research, or the blogger/author would like to keep their content unique. Not to mention the businesses on wordpress which create a blog as a way to create a more personal bond with their clients. This is why we must always. ALWAYS ask before reblogging a post, and ad a sincere thank you and shout-out to the original author when reblogging.

This can be time-consuming and frustrating when we, as bloggers, stumble upon a post that we would love to share because we know our readers would really like to see it! To help ease the pain a bit, I have put together a list of sites that have stated that being reblogged is totally cool and they appreciate it.

I will be updating this list for you regularly. If you would like your site to be added onto the list, please leave a link and state that you would like to be added, in the comment section below.

Feel free to reblog this post, and keep it handy for reference later if you’re a reblogging fan! And remember; If you would like your site added to this ever-growing list, please leave a comment about it in the comments section 🙂

Thanks for reading, thanks for sharing!

-Mliae

Recycled Book Reading Challenge: Raven Black by Ann Cleeves

Hello!

Welcome to my Recycled Book Reading Challenge post for my April read! I did  and did not like this one. I must admit, this is the first Ann Cleeves book that I have read. Allow me to explain.

The story starts out with Magnus Taint, an older gentleman with a mental disability who is blamed for the killing of  a teenage girl nearby. Of course. He was also investigated for a former death of a girl. This seems to be a common cliché now. It is difficult though to explore his weaknesses and vulnerabilities. The inability to understand fully the depth of accusations against ones person immediately musters a general empathetic anxiety for the character.

The story plot made me uncomfortable. I do not personally enjoy tales of harm to children or pedophelia. These themes really made me want to just put the book down. However, what kept me reading was not the disturbedness of it, but the unique point of view of the child. A rawly emotional and powerful point of view which really made this reader wonder if the research was that good or if the author herself had experienced these thoughts and emotions at some point herself. (Which puts a completely different spin on things).

The ending is a total surprise, or was for me anyway. I won’t spoil it here.

Ann Cleeves has been highly complimented on her accurate writing about Shetland, in her Shetland series. I have never been there, so cannot account for it personally, but it nice to feel as though the places being described are so accurate that you can kind of picture yourself there.

This is a heavy read. I recommend it if you have the stomach for it. For sensitive readers, I would steer clear of this one. I would like to find another Ann Cleeves book to give a read and see if it was just the book that sat heavily on my brain, or the writer herself.

If you would like to join this challenge, please click here for the challenge instructions. The more the merrier!

Thanks for reading!

-Mliae