I think I’m in shock, not really sure what to say but I definitely have to say something! I knew the internet was a bit of a ‘wild west’ but I’ve always lived under the assumption that people could conduct themselves with a bit of self-respect and act like adults who at least pretend to have a modicum of respect for those out there who are not identical to the writer. Oh, how wrong I have been!
As you know, I spend A LOT of time researching for the experiments I write about. I was online today reading about the challenges to making the most out of your already existing wardrobe and how to glam it up a bit. Apparently, 80% (statistic created in my own head) of the articles seem geared towards the late Teens – 20’s crowd. (Most of which who aren’t in possession of the 40’s finances required – BTW.) So, I had to do an entirely different search for fashion for women who don’t want to live in miniskirts and skorts. The grown up model. The 30+ crowd, as we are really the ones that can afford the quality purchases. What I found was….very disappointing.
What was under my search was THIS ARTICLE. Much like a train wreck; You know you shouldn’t look, but you kind of have to. I had to read it. I read it in it’s entirety. I have never read such foulness towards women. In short: Unmarried women over 30 are old useless hags who only want a man because her looks are gone & no-one will have her. If you want the long version, you’ll have to read the linked article (top of paragraph ) yourself.
I am confused. My 20’s were horrible. True, I was dating, I went out with my friends, I had fun. But honestly? I had no idea what life was yet. I was so busy just trying to keep a roof over my head, food (ramen) in my mouth & clothes (cheapest thing I could get) on my back that I had no comprehension that there was more to life than the struggle. I know that the majority of women have shared this 20’s construction zone. It wasn’t until I turned 30 that I actually understood who I was! It was the first time in my life that I was actually comfortable in my own body & even proud of it. It was then that I realized that if I could stop focusing on the details, I could see the big picture & actually enjoy life a bit. But according to this writer, when I came into my beauty at 30, I was actually aged out of it. Old. Shrivelled. Desperate. Unwanted.
And the 40’s? Fuhgget about it…. Apparently 40 is the desperate new 80. Auts! This writer is convinced that because a woman in her 40’s actually started a conversation with him in the line at the market, that she was really wanting to drag him to her house, and take him to bed. Why?! Can we no longer be polite without people thinking we are so desperate as to sleep with any male person we come into contact with? Where in the world did this myth get started? Shall we cease to feel sexy in our own right, stop wearing makeup or heels, stop doing our hair? Should we stop speaking to younger people for fear that we will have to explain to them that ‘put away your ego. I’m not trying to fuck you. You remind me of my nephew who lives far away & I hope people are kind to him, so I’m being kind to you’ or some such explanation?
It is apparent that the writer is in need of a great deal of therapy, given his absolute disdain. What really got me was the comments. There were so many! Most of them agreeing with the article in quite strong terms. I am absolutely horrified at how many people seem to feel this way. Truly. I did not realize people could be so openly cruel. The internet truly is a savage place!
This article was about ‘older’ unmarried women, but I’m putting the question to you about both – married & unmarried, as his descriptions seemed to be aimed at all – his rage only targeted towards the single ladies.
The question I am putting to you is: Do people really feel this way? How do you feel about a woman in her 30’s, 40’s & 50’s?
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