Marriage: Cross-Species Communication and Saving Face

I sometimes wonder how people that have been married for so long, example 50 years, are able to communicate almost telepathically with each others. Do you think they laugh at ‘new’ couples, when they hear us having very different conversation with each others in the café? I think that definitely they do. They should!

Fun happening this week. I’m talking to a friend and my husband about an idea and we’re all excited about it. The next day, I’m talking to my husband again about it. Or, I thought I was. Amazingly, I must have been speaking in some sort of alien language, because he could not understand anything I was saying. The whole concept was strange. I repeated myself and the man just looked at me. Seriously??! It was at that moment that I realised ‘home hearing’ is real. (Or, I have a speaking problem.) If I could guess his thoughts by the look on his face, he was thinking ‘What’s thats sound? Some kind of buzzing…. its getting louder. Where is it coming from? Why is my wife angry looking? Maybe she hears it also…’

It was then, I stopped explaining and tried to save face with our friend. So easy to just say ‘we are having a married moment, will get back to you about the idea’. Did I? No. Of course not. I sent instead a incoherent, rambling message which probably made them wonder if I had been drinking. Great. That’s so much better.

I know that I am not the only person who makes themselves look stupid when its not necessary. I also know that the first years of marriage are a time of big changes. Well, that and just loudly saying ‘what’ from other rooms. What I want to know is, when does the long-term, telepathic communication happen? I’m excited about the time when I can mumble some wrong words for something and my husband understands exactly what I am saying.  When does this happen?

Anyone familiar about this happening?

-Mliae

“Whosis, Whatsis and Whatchamacallit”

I had to share this great post from https://www.srbottch.com
I have been following Steve’s blog for quite some time now and he never ceases to amuse! This post was just too good not to share. Hands up – who’s reached this level of telepathy in your relationship?

S'amusing

ALERT: this story isn’t for everyone, just those in long term relationships, say 30, 40 or 50 years. However, you’re still welcome to read it…

“Honey, I’m home from, ah, whatchamacallits. Whosis was there, she’ll see us at, you know, whatsis place Saturday.”

“Okay!”

And with that exchange, we affirm our relationship is stronger than ever…again!

Do you recognize it? Sound familiar? I expect those of you in long term relationships are nodding in the affirmative.  You know each other so well that substitute words suffice in place of real words, the ones that escape us momentarily. Gibberish fills the void and, strangely enough, we understand each other. How does that work?

This behavior confirms my belief that as we grow older with our life partner, our spirits, habits and language meld, allowing us to behave almost as one. There must be a term for it?

With a certain…

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