The Blogger That Doesn’t Love Social Media

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Good evening all,

Social media is a thing. A big thing that has really made itself a ‘must’ in our modern world. So what do you do when….you aren’t just loving it? Is it even allowed to not be a huge fan of social media? Or must we all be living by our smart phones 24-7?

I’m not averse to all social media. Twitter I check on sometimes. Vero I have actually found myself liking, but still maybe on a bi-weekly basis. But when it comes to things like Instagram or Facebook, I’m just not that interested. I’ve been thinking about this quite often. As in, why? I did, formerly, spend quite a bit of time on social media. But then I seem to have hit a time in my life where I just began wondering if it really is as important as (the mysterious) they say. I think that the reason may be a combination between the impulsive need to overshare every aspect of ones life with the world with the fact that people’s lives on social media are, for the most part, complete falsehood.

I’m a blogger. I love blogging. This is my happy place. Which is what makes this so weird, because I love oversharing about my life, here, on the blog. But I do not like sharing my personal world with social media. One would ask themselves, what is the difference between sharing your personal life on the internet, and sharing your personal life on…well, the internet? And that person would win, because I do not know.

Having said that; While I do try to keep this blog as realistic to my life as possible, I do not share every small strange thing that happens during my day either. I am certain that if you, my readers, realized what a boring person I can be, that on some days I forego the heels/designer/makeup all together and opt for a rather ‘do you have a hangover?’ look,  or how hilarious I find fart jokes, you would abandon me all together in search of someone a bit more ‘presentable’. (I really hope not!) But I feel like you know me, here. You know my interests, you know that I am camera shy, you know that I stumble in heels sometimes, that I am a fail with domestic duties and that I cannot seem to be able to follow a proper recipe. And yet, you still create a community with me here. (Thank you!!!) So, I can be me here.

However on social media, especially Instagram & FB, its all about the image. Yes, we can all take a 1 second photo of ourselves in perfect hair and make-up and heels, before life makes us normal people again. But is that really the healthiest version of ourselves to share with the world? And what about the pressure to continue the performance once our 1 second photo becomes old? Oh, you want another one? A different location? I’m a traveller now, no, I’m a glamour mom, oops, I’m a pilot! And once that gets old? Lunch…here’s my lunch! Let’s be honest people: Does anyone actually want to see what kind of food blob I have on my plate?? No. I didn’t think so.  And I just cannot keep up pretense.  This puts me in a difficult position because I love my blog and the internet says I need to be as active as possible on social media because I want people to read my blog. Hmph. I think I will just stay with blogging, thank you. (Also, thank you to those of you who do share my blog posts on twitter!)

In a world where it is becoming increasingly unpopular for one to be themselves & hold their own thoughts, wouldn’t it be nice to just be boring, weird selves?

-Mliae


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Former.ly: The rise and fall of a social network by Dane Cobain @danecobain #formerly

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I have been reading Dane Cobain’s books for awhile now. Former.ly is the newest that I’ve gotten my hands on, and as always with this author, I got hooked into this book almost immediately. Dane Cobain is a young UK author with 5 published books under his belt. I really enjoy this author, partly because his relative youth allows for him to write works of fiction which appeal to our modern-day, technology driven world.

This book is a good read. It is suspenseful and gives the reader an unusual first-person perspective into the world of social media. This book presents readers with a realm of social media possibilities that we rarely consider in this I.T. based world of ours. A well written, great read!

Dan Roberts is your main character. Like most of us, he just wants to find a job and pay his bills. Being a bit on the naive side, he has no idea what he’s in for when he gets a job at Former.ly. You see, Former.ly the company, is much like Facebook…only with a bit of a sinister twist. It’s a social media platform for the dearly departed. This is how it works: The users, write in it almost like a private journal. They are encouraged to share their most private thoughts. These thoughts are kept private. Safe and sound on the secret server. This is an easy false comfort to fall into – journaling, as most of us bloggers know. However, the kicker comes when the user dies. Once the user has passed on, these secret writings are no longer kept hidden. Au contraire – they are posted for the entire world to see! Now imagine this, for just a moment. Let it sink in. Can you IMAGINE the kinds of chaos that ensues once those posts are made public?! Hate mail, confessions of an extraordinary kind, conspiracies, etc… Shit hits the fan!

I, personally, really like the way it is written in first person. Some people do, some people don’t. I think its refreshing to have a limited perspective about the goings on of the story. It relays to us how narrow our own views really are, and reminds us that one person cannot possibly know all of the aspects. This, to me, brings the book a bit more into my personal realm of understanding. Life teaches us that the omniscient perspective of some books is not at all realistic. The first person perspective however, keeps us arm chair detectives a bit more involved. As, we as people, can only make judgement calls on the limited information available to us in the real world.

I would highly recommend this book to adult readers.

If you would like to see more about this book or some of the other great titles by this author, please click here to visit the Dane Cobain official website.

Have you read any of Dane Cobain’s books?

-Mliae

*Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of this e-book in exchange for my honest and unbiased opinion. I like it, and will continue to look for the next books from this author 🙂